Possible consequences of facing war related illness.
This information is crucial to both veterans and family members for understanding why many veterans resist help.
Most Veterans will be highly resistant to the admission of war related illness due to the consequences it may bring. These consequences are very real and the impact can be deep and affect the veteran and their family with long lasting and devastating effects.
If a veteran starts to notice his/her OWN behaviors that are worrisome or cause for concern, he/she will most likely choose one of these routes:
Example of why a veteran may be resistant to seeking help:
Let’s say that Pvt. Johnson currently earns $3,000 a month from his civilian job to support his family after returning from deployment. Examples of his expenses include: $900. per month mortgage, $400 for car payments, $400 for insurance and gas, $450 for utilities, $500 for food, leaving the remaining for misc. needs of the family.
Pvt. Johnson will be resistant to seeking help because he is not prepared to forgo the financial security he has or to threaten the well being of his family without assurance that they will be cared for.
Pvt. Johnson also knows that there may be help through the VA System, but that it is slow and difficult to apply for and that he and his family cannot afford to wait for even the POSSIBILITY of receiving benefits.
THEREFORE, Pvt. Johnson shares only PARTIAL information to HIS family and/or to medical and mental health practitioners, hoping that the problem will “go away on its own”, because the consequences are too great to do otherwise.
The reality is that Pvt. Johnson is facing what many of our veterans are facing, a no-win situation in which it seems like it would be better to “hang on” than to ask for help. And this is just one of countless possibilities facing our veterans today.
There are some federal emergency funds available, but not enough and most of the time, ANY funding is difficult to apply for and receive…especially if you are sick OR you are the family member of an ill veteran. The process for assistance is extremely lengthy and anxiety provoking for anyone who is healthy, much less under the tremendous stress of war related illness.
There are NO EASY ANSWERS or SOLUTIONS to this problem, but it plagues many veterans. Understanding the EXTREME effects of ADMITTING something is wrong can help family members and healing practitioners to be more sensitive to the veterans’ fears. THEY ARE REAL.
Another major growing problem is for single parent Veterans, either male or female who have custody of their children. Many of these Veterans will not disclose that they are becoming ill for fear of loosing their rights and access to their children. Admitting that they have a mental or a war related illness may mean they are jeopardizing the most important thing they have in their lives, their children.
Understanding the EXTREME effects of the devastation and impact of war related illness can help our Country to understand the opportunity we have to provide NEW options to help those who have made a great sacrifice for our freedom.
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